Wednesday, August 5, 2009

What A Beautiful Example!

As I've mentioned recently, one of my favorite books that pulls at my heartstrings every time I read it is "Stories For The Family's Heart" by Alice Gray. As most of you know, it's very hard these days for kids to stay on that straight and narrow path. There is so much peer pressure to "give in" to one thing or another. This story touched me the first time I read it, but even more so now that I have two daughters. It's too good not to pass it along to you. Hope you enjoy it!

Courageous Choices
by
Tim Kimmel

Two people immediately come to mind when I think about preparing our kids to make courageous choices. Jerry and Cheryl are parents of three beautiful daughters. Their girls have been the beneficiaries of a loving and stable spiritual environment. But even with all this godly teaching and understanding, with all this love and security, Jerry and Cheryl knew that without courage, their daughters could easily fall to outside pressures.

Just about the time their oldest daughter, Shelley, blossomed into a beautiful young woman, they decided to do something memorable to help her maintain courage. It was easy for them to develop a plan because they knew what character traits they were trying to encourage.

They took some of their own gold jewelry, had the jeweler form it into a key, strung the key on a chain, and made it into a necklace. They washed their car, dry-cleaned Jerry's suit, and bought a simple corsage.

Then, Jerry took his daughter out on her first "adult" date.

They enjoyed an elegant dinner in one of their town's finest restaurants. During the meal, Jerry talked to Shelly about the courage she would need to stay morally pure. When dessert was served, Jerry took out the gift-wrapped jewelry box containing the necklace. But before she put it on, he told her it's significance.

The gold symbolized her purity and the key symbolized the key to her heart. She was to wear it as a reminder of the moral purity that God wanted her to bring to her honeymoon bed. Every time she went out on a date, and anytime she might be tempted to compromise her purity, this gold key around her neck was to remind her of God's view of marriage. Then, on the night of her honeymoon, she could take it off and give it to her husband. With it she could let him know she had preserved her purity as a gift for him.

Maybe that's why I like Jerry and Cheryl so much. They realize that courage doesn't come easy, but regardless of it's cost, it must be transferred to their children.

Now, isn't that the most amazing example these parents set for their daughters? What do you think?

"Good character is more to be praised than outstanding talent. Most talents are, to some extent, a gift. Good character, by contrast, is not given to us. We have to build it piece by piece- By thought, choice, courage and determination."~John Luther
April
April

Hello, I'm April, welcome to my blog. I look at every day as an adventure and an opportunity to laugh and to learn. You will soon discover that my family and my faith are at the heart of who I am.

27 comments:

Debra Kaye said...

I think it is wonderful and something that we have tried to instill in our son, as well.

Blessings to you today, sweet sister! Love ya bunches!

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful way to bring up our kids....April Casey is a shih tzu. I meant he was big, like an Amazon.

Hugs,
Chris

Queenie Jeannie said...

I was so proud of my Alex for waiting and I know it wasn't easy!!!

SmilingSally said...

We need more of that.

mysteryhistorymom said...

That was beautiful, April! That really makes you think... Lori

-stephanie- said...

Love it! Having two daughters, I'll take all the advice I can get for raising them.

Denise said...

So beautiful, bless you for sharing.

Rebecca Jo said...

WOW... just wow..

I love the idea of the key & it being on a necklace... it'd be great designed with a cross in the middle of it - wouldnt it?

Darlene said...

That is so beautiful.

Mommy Mac said...

Really meaningful story.

Our babysitter's dad did the same thing although he gave her a ring to wear instead.

It meant so much to her.

I hope you guys do or have done something like that for your girls.

.mac :)

southerninspiration said...

Yes, love it!! I did the Passport to Purity with my daughter and gave her a ring.......a key necklace is a great idea, too!

Suzanne

Aubs said...

Absolutely amazing....such a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing...that so warmed my heart!

Lindsay-ann said...

Hi April
Thanks so much for sharing this. What a wonderful thing to do. The fact their daughter would wear the key around her neck to remind her is a lovely idea. I had heard of the rings but this is even more special and meaningful.
Lindsay
x

Jen @ tatertotsandjello.com said...

Hi April -
I love that story. And what a good symbol and reminder that necklace would be!

XOOX
Jen

Pam D said...

That was beautiful, April. Special in the symbolism of the key, the shared creation of it, and the fact that Dad took her out and SHOWED her how she should be treated on a date. THAT'S what parents SHOULD be doing; sadly, I'd say that less than 5% are. Maybe "society" has convinced us that it's silly? Old-fashioned? Not cool? Not sure why, but it sure isn't happening. Thanks for sharing...

Tanielle said...

That is beautiful!! It scares me to raise kids in this time for sure. I hope mine can always stay strong, and remember the things we have taught them! Thanks for sharing this!

Unknown said...

HI April
I saw that you left a message on Rambling Girls blog about the quilt. I am using a lot of fabric from my daughter's clothing.
You should come join us!!:)
Love your blog, I'll be back!

The Muse said...

Wonderful...
what a blog post to return to !!

wife.mom.nurse said...

Wow, those words blew me away and brought a tear to my eye. What a neat family.

See, I told you you always bring me encouragement. My kids are nearing those fragile years and it scares me to death.

Thanks for this post my sweet friend.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful story!

Shelley said...

Very beautiful and inspirational!!

Shell in your Pocket said...

What a wonderful idea...

So important and barely talked about much anymore!
sandy toe

Paula said...

What a wonderful story, April! Something all parents should consider!

Anonymous said...

I love this April. Really, really love it.

Anonymous said...

I really love this April. Really, really love it. I can't imagine how hard it would have to be as a Mom with a daughter at that age....

Jodi said...

Beautiful!

Daphine said...

Beautiful story! I am a nervous wreck these days as this is the month that Morgan turns 16 and will be allowed to date!! Girl, I never dreamed this teenage stuff would take such a toll on me.